The Psychotherapy Center
 
 
215-579-7808
289 N Sycamore Street
Newtown, PA 18940  
Recovery, Healing, Transformation
 

Most couples find resolution of problems within 2 - 4 months of weekly sessions; however, the length of therapy is a function of who you are and what you are working on. The kind of relationship you want emerges from a mutual process of reflection and inquiry. It requires both of you to speak from your heart about what really matters. 

Goals and Objectives of Couples Therapy

The primary goal of any couples counselling is to increase your understanding of yourself, your partner, and the patterns of interactions that have become detrimental to the relationship. Once these have been explored and understood, you are taught how to change your feelings, thoughts, and actions, to change ineffective or destructive behaviors into positive ones that will enhance your relationship.

 

Most people enter couples therapy believing their partner is the one who needs to change. They have spent years denying or ignoring the major problems in their marriage, or trying ineffectively to change their partner. This is a big mistake, and the longer these behaviors have been maintained, the longer the therapy will take. You will both need to be willing to change yourself, and to work as a team. When it comes to improving your relationship, your attitude toward changing is more important and crucial, than what action you take.

 

Identifying what to do, and how to do it, is the easiest part of couples therapy. What involves real work is confronting yourself, and figuring out why you don't do it---what is holding each of you back from becoming the partner you want to be in the relationship.

 

The essential skills needed to engage in successful couples therapy are:

                

            1. The capacity to envision a better life together.

            2. A capacity to work together as a team.

            3.The motivation to change, even when it gets difficult.

            4. The capacity to speak from your heart about what really matters.

         5. The capacity to engage in the process of reflection and non-judgmental inquiry.

 

Key points to remember:

 

ATTITUDE IS KEY. CHANGE YOURSELF - NOT YOUR PARTNER. CONFLICT PRODUCES GROWTH.  MANAGING CONFLICT LEADS TO A HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP.